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According To Jessica...
is a blog about things that I love, things that I find funny, things that inspire me and things that I want to shamelessly complain about but don't actually want any feedback or advice on.First and foremost, I love Jesus.
I've been married for almost 10 years and we have 3 messy, smelly, dirty boys. I love my kids. Love, love, love them. But 85% of the time, I want to be away from them. (And it's really 90% of the time, but I thought 85% sounded better.) I am a real Mom. I don't pack snacks and plan playdates. At the end of the day, if no one's bleeding and everyone has had at least 2 meals, I consider it a win. (Everybody's hands go up!!!) I depend on coffee the way most people depend of electricity. I classify cereal an acceptable dinner. I single-handly have kept the good people of the Sumner Fred Meyer across the street employed by the amount of money we spend on groceries. I have wasted hours neglecting my household and children working on this blog. I believe Jessica Simpson shoes are more important than routine oil changes. I am a bit of a clothes whore. Some people collect stamps, some collect antique dolls...I collect clothes. My husband wakes up in the morning and reads the newspaper. I wake up in the morning and read The Possessionista. I have the best intentions and very poor follow through. I have an outstanding track record of losing and/or breaking electronic devices. I often forget that I am Asian. And last but not least, if I had to choose between Happy Hour at Stanley & Seaforts and a Free People Maxi Dress...I would karate chop the person making me choose and take both.
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God Knows My Needs…And My Starbucks Addiction
So with Husband being out of a job and all, I decided I should make some cutbacks. I’ve skipped my usual Starbucks stop on the way to work in the morning.
Goodbye Iced Venti Upside Down Soy Caramel Macchiato with Xtra Caramel Sauce. It was nice knowing you, slice of Lemon Pound Cake. It just wasn’t meant to be, little Madeline Cookie package. I know. But I’ve come to terms with it, you need to too.
But then today…my boss surprised me with a card. It was a Thank You card. And guess what was in it. A Starbucks gift card.
Thank you Lord for always, always, always taking care of my needs. But also for remembering my wants…no matter how little they are.
Layoffs and Amazing Friends
Yesterday Husband was laid off.
He’s been with the company for over 6 years. He’s worked hard to get to the top but unfortunately it just wasn’t a great fit.
And I’ve been in a fog all day today. I NEVER thought this would happen to us. Not in a million. I don’t know why I thought we’d be an exemption from this economy, it isn’t realistic. I just couldn’t seem to focus on anything else today. My poor, poor co-workers. I’m not sure I heard anything anyone else has said…since 8am this morning. Luckily, I have 3 girlfriends who helped me through this never-ending day
Corianne: My coddle-er. She tells me what I want to hear, just to make me feel better. And she does this little head-tilt thing (even though we were conversing via email, I know she was doing it) like, “Ohhh…I know how you feel and if I could fix it with Skittles and cotton candy for you, I totally would.” She just makes you feel like it’s okay to have a downer day and mope and complain and she doesn’t think any less of you. She emailed me first thing this morning and I told her that Davey had been laid off and she was so sympathetic. She let me complain about Davey, about Davey’s job, about my job, our budget and everything in between, with no judgment. Just happy little emoticons. And virtual hugs.
Jen: My mirror. Basically, she’ll tell me how she sees it and she’s usually right. She won’t beat around the bush or candy coat things with me. And sometimes, that’s just what I need. To be snapped out my funk. I called her when I got home from work, after a whole day of moping, and we had a great talk. She pretty much gave me a verbal spanking. Not in a mean way. But she wanted to make sure that I was also be supportive to Davey, something I hadn’t really given a whole lot of thought to. (She’s a genius.) She follows everything up with an “I love you” and I know she does. It was exactly what I needed though. I really do need to focus on being supportive to Davey. This has probably been 10 times harder on him than me.
Alicia: My encourager. After I got off the phone with Jen, Alicia called to talk to Davey. But he wasn’t home, so we ended up chatting for a bit. She was firing off Bible verse after Bible verse and her experiences (which, to note, have been waaaaaay more than I’m going through). She told me that God won’t close a door without opening another door. And sometimes doors have to be shut to get our attention, but there is always something better. He always has our best interest in mind! After we got off the phone, I just felt stupid. But stupid in a good way. Like, why am I worrying? God won’t leave me with nothing. I will be fine. There are so many people, going through way worse. more devastating, actual life-altering things. I am not so small that He’s forgotten about me.
After we got off the phone, I literally felt like I could conquer the world. Not even because of the possibility of Davey getting another job, but just because I have the most amazing girlfriends. They are exactly what I need. I’m not even sure they know how much they mean to me, especially today. I am so thankful for their support, so that I can be a support to Davey. I hope everyone has these types of friends in their life.
Just don’t take mine. I will hunt you down and then let a rabid dog feast on your danglers.
